Those of you who are single, you may think marriage is going to cure all your problems, marriage is not a cure all. If you are lonely now as a single person, you will be lonely when you get married. Whatever issues you have right now such as selfishness, insecurity, inadequacy, inferiority and lust - if you don't deal with them before you are married - you take them with you into the marriage.
Some single people have a misconception of what marriage can do. Marriage is not going to cure the problem that only you and Jesus together can cure.
So many single people get married because they want to be happy. Sounds good, and happiness is a great thing, and can be the result of a healthy marriage, but it's not the reason for marriage.
If you go into marriage searching for happiness, you will be disappointed. Don't get me wrong, marriage is incredible! But it is not heaven on earth. Our whole mindset on happiness is flawed. "I deserve to be happy". If you put your faith in your spouse to make you happy, it's only a matter of time until they let you down.
My husband makes me a better person. He calls out the best in me. He also brings out the worst in me. What Paul calls "the flesh." The part of me that doesn't want to change. He exposes my selfishness and pride. That's why marriage is humbling. When you step into marriage, your true colors bleed out and whatever is on the inside comes out, for better or for worse.
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The point of marriage isn't to find our missing half. It's to help each other become all God intended. To see the best in each other - the person God created them to be - and push and pull each other toward that goal.
This doesn't mean you won't be happy in marriage. I am. Most of the best memories of my life are times spent with my husband. Happiness is the result of a healthy marriage.
All of life is a gift from GOD.
Happiness is not a right, it is a gift from God.
